How I Learned to Ground Myself

After my separation in 2020, I felt very unsteady. Lost at sea without an anchor. My spouse had never been the rock in the relationship. That had been mainly my role. The reliable, responsible, calming, predictable one. My ex was the one with the stormy emotions and the never-ending list of needs I was supposed to cater to.

But without someone else to focus on, and being uncomfortable focusing on my own needs, I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know how to switch gears and take care of only myself for once, even though that’s what I desperately needed.